For the ones who stay
You're not alonein this either.
When someone you love has an addiction, you need support too. This page is for you.
- Supporter fellowships
- 16
- Helplines available
- 78+
- Crisis helplines listed
- 24/7
Understanding
What addiction doesto families
Addiction reshapes everyone around it. Recognising these patterns is the first step toward your own healing.
01Denial
They may not see the problem. That doesn't mean you can't. Supporters often recognise addiction before the person does.
02Enabling
Covering debts, making excuses, shielding from consequences, well-intentioned actions that sustain the cycle.
03Codependency
Your life starts revolving around theirs. When supporting someone becomes your entire identity, you both lose.
04Burnout
The physical and emotional toll of constant worry. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
Addiction is a family disease. One person may use, but the whole family suffers. Recovery should work the same way.
Therapy works
Professional support helps you set boundaries and process your own pain.
Guidance
What works.What doesn't.
What helps
- Set boundaries and hold them
- Attend your own fellowship meetings
- Learn about addiction as a condition
- Look after your own mental health
- Let them face natural consequences
- Celebrate small progress
What doesn't
- Cover their debts or lie for them
- Monitor every move, surveillance isn't support
- Issue ultimatums you won't follow through
- Take their behaviour personally
- Try to control their recovery
- Ignore your own needs
Warning signs
- Secrecy about money or time
- Mood swings tied to outcomes
- Borrowing money with vague reasons
- Withdrawal from family and friends
- Defensive when asked about behaviour
- Neglecting responsibilities
For supporters
Know someonewho needs someone?
Sign up as a supporter and invite them. You'll get a quiet dashboard with signals, never secrets, that tells you they're okay, or that they might need a call.
Sponsor
You've walked the path. Now guide someone through theirs.
Friend
You chose to stand beside them. This gives you a way to.
Family
You never stopped hoping. Now you have a way to help.
You won't police them. You won't watch them. You'll just be there, and they'll know it.
Become a supporter
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Fellowships for you
Your own recoveryprogramme
These fellowships exist for people in your position. Pick a category to find meetings, step programmes, and community, worldwide.
“You didn't cause it. You can't cure it. You can't control it.”
Helplines
Someone totalk to
Free, confidential support. You don't need to be in crisis to call.
78 helplines
“I used to lie awake wondering if he was okay. Now I check the dashboard, see the green light, and I can actually sleep.”
Mobile app
With you, everywhere.
Check-ins, protection, crisis support, community, in your pocket and always on.
They don't have todo this alone.
Sign up as a supporter. You'll get a simple dashboard with signals, never secrets, that tells you they're okay.