# Cutting off access: apps, cash and contacts > Close the four practical routes to acting out: the apps and accounts, the money, the contacts, and the times and places. Then plan the ninety seconds after. Published: 1 September 2026 Read time: 6 min Section: Sex addiction Topics: how to stop acting out, sex addiction relapse prevention, block hookup apps, bottom line behaviours URL: https://renovyn.io/guides/cutting-off-access-apps-cash-and-contacts --- There are four routes to acting out and you already know all of them. The apps and accounts. The cash and cards that make a payment invisible. The contacts and threads. The times and places you're alone with it. Close all four this week, and plan for what you do in the ninety seconds after the friction stops you. You've probably done a version of this before. Deleted the app on a Sunday night, felt clean for four days, reinstalled it on Thursday in under a minute. Nothing about that makes you weak. It's what happens when the obstacle is one you can undo by yourself, in private, in the exact state of mind that wants it undone. So this time the rule is different: every obstacle you build should either take longer than an urge lasts, or need another person to remove. ## Route one: the apps and the accounts Deleting an app doesn't touch the account. The profile stays warm, the messages stay waiting, and reinstalling restores everything in thirty seconds. That's why deletion alone keeps failing. Work down this list in order. It takes about forty minutes. 1. **Delete the accounts, not the apps.** Find account deletion in the settings of every dating or hook-up service you use, plus any cam and subscription accounts. Most have a fourteen to thirty day grace window, so do it now and the clock starts running. Then delete the apps. 2. **Change the recovery email and the password.** Set a password you never see, generated at random, and don't save it. If you can't recall it, you can't type it at 2am. 3. **Turn on device-level blocking.** Screen Time on iOS, Digital Wellbeing on Android, a DNS filter on the home router. Renovyn's [Shield](/shield) covers phone and laptop together, and can require a second person to switch it off, which is the part that actually matters. 4. **Hand the passcode to someone.** The blocker passcode, not your phone passcode. A friend or a sibling will do. They don't need to know what it's for, and you can tell them that. 5. **Clear the shortcuts.** Browser history, autocomplete, saved bookmarks, the incognito habit. Your keyboard remembers URLs after two letters. Do the ones you'll resist most first. Whatever you're arguing with in your head right now is holding the pattern up. ## Route two: the money If your acting out costs money, the transaction is a chokepoint, and it's usually the easiest one to close. Take the card out of Apple Pay and Google Pay. Remove saved cards from browsers. Delete the anonymous payment accounts and prepaid balances. If cash is the route, stop carrying it, and if you can't stop, keep only what a normal day needs. Then the uncomfortable one: make the spending visible. A bank that emails on every transaction, or an account someone else can see. Most people won't do this, and it's the one obstacle that reliably survives contact with an urge, because the friction is the fact that someone will notice. If money has already gone somewhere it shouldn't have, deal with that separately and calmly. Debt and shame feed each other, and StepChange takes calls free on 0800 138 1111. ## Route three: the contacts and the threads Numbers, DMs, saved chats, group threads, the one person you always message when you've decided to give up on the day. Block and delete, then delete the backup, because most phones restore a deleted contact from the cloud within the hour. Where another person is involved, say the thing you need to say once, plainly, and then stop replying. A longer explanation usually reopens the door. If someone keeps reaching you across new numbers, change your own number. That sounds extreme until you count the hours you've spent managing it. And if a thread is with someone you're close to, this isn't the moment for the big conversation about what's been going on. Getting that wrong makes things worse for months. Read [what to tell a partner](/guides/sex/disclosure-what-to-tell-a-partner) before you say anything. ## Route four: the times and the places Almost nobody acts out at random. It's Tuesday, it's late, you're in the car park, you're alone in the flat between six and eight. Write down the last four times it happened, with the hour and the location, and the shape appears fast. [Mapping the cycle before acting out](/guides/sex/mapping-the-cycle-before-acting-out) takes this further. Then change the geometry. Charge the phone in the kitchen overnight. Take the other road home. Put something at 7pm on the two evenings that keep going wrong, and make it something with a person in it, even a bad film with your brother. ## The ninety seconds after Here's the honest part. Friction buys you time. It does not build a wall. Every block you set can be undone by a determined version of you with an afternoon spare, and at some point you'll stand in front of one of these obstacles with your whole body arguing. What decides that moment is whether you know what to do with the next ninety seconds. Urges peak and fall, and the drop comes sooner than it feels like it will. So write down two moves now, while you're calm, and leave them where you'll see them at the wrong hour: one that involves your body, one that involves another human being. Cold water and a walk. A text saying "having a bad one" to the person who won't panic. [Urge surfing](/spaces/urge-surfing-technique) is the same idea with more structure, and [getting through an urge to act out](/guides/sex/getting-through-an-urge-to-act-out) covers it once it's already started. Also, eat something. A surprising share of these evenings are hunger and tiredness wearing a costume, which is what [HALT](/spaces/halt-method-recovery) is about. ## If other people and real risk are involved If your acting out includes sex with other people, get tested. Just as maintenance. Search for your nearest sexual health clinic and book in, and know that you don't have to explain why you're there or how many people there have been. They have heard all of it before. Take condoms, and take enough, because the version of you at 1am doesn't stop at a shop. If anyone has been hurt, coerced, or put in danger, that needs to stop today and it needs more than an app blocker. Tell one person who can help you act on it. And if the shame around all of this has got as far as thinking about ending your life, call Samaritans on 116 123. Free, any hour. In England, 111 and option 2 reaches urgent mental health support. ## What this is not Cutting off access isn't a moral cleanse and you're not being punished. An international expert panel on compulsive sexual behaviour was direct about this, opposing any treatment that would "increase the experience of discrimination, stigma, and moral incongruence". You're closing specific routes to specific behaviours you've decided are costing you too much. Nobody else writes that list. The fellowship that popularised this approach says so plainly: "it is necessary for each member to define his or her own abstinence." ## Common questions **How do I stop reinstalling the app?** Delete the account rather than the app, and put the blocker passcode in someone else's hands. Reinstalling has to become something you can't finish alone in five minutes. If it's still one tap away, willpower is doing all the work and willpower is the thing that's already tired. **Do blockers actually work?** They work as delays, and delay is worth a lot. What they can't be is a wall, because anything you configured you can unconfigure. Treat every block as a purchase of ninety seconds and have a plan for how you spend those seconds. **I've relapsed after doing all of this. Is it pointless?** No. A relapse after building friction almost always took more effort and lasted less time than the ones before it, and that gap is real progress even though it doesn't feel like it. Note exactly which route you used, then close that one properly. See [what to do after a relapse](/spaces/what-to-do-after-a-relapse). **Should I tell my partner what I'm blocking and why?** Not as part of this. Disclosure is its own piece of work with its own preparation, and doing it badly, in a rush, on a bad night, does damage that takes a long time to undo. ## Sources - [SAA on sobriety](https://saa-recovery.org/our-program/sobriety/): Members define their own abstinence, and the inner, middle and outer circle structure. - [Assessment and treatment of compulsive sexual behavior disorder, Sexual Medicine Reviews](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11214846/): The expert panel's opposition to stigmatising and moralising treatment. - [ICD-11 6C72 diagnostic entry](https://www.findacode.com/icd-11/code-1630268048.html): Repeated unsuccessful attempts to reduce the behaviour as part of the definition. - [Treatments and interventions for compulsive sexual behavior disorder, a preregistered systematic review](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36083776/): 24 studies, four randomised trials, early evidence for cognitive behavioural approaches. — Renovyn. We've got you.